Instances of infidelity or betrayal by husbands has been on the rise in recent times and it becomes extremely difficult for the victimized wife to cope up with resulting turmoil. The woman is not only distressed by the disloyalty of her husband but also suffer mental agony as her husband continues to tell lies. It is a heart breaking situation for her.
As is well-known, dealing with disloyalty of a husband is not a pushover for the wife. The agony or bitterness is very difficult to manage and the thoughts of rejection by her husband and being left alone can drive a woman to contemplate suicide.
It is adding insult to injury when her husband continues to indulge in lies and withhold the details of his affair with the other woman in order to maintain the marital relationship. The question often asked is “How to deal with infidelity and a deceptive husband?”
Here are the 4 tips that may be useful to cope with the situation.
1) Don’t let his cheating action control you.
You should not allow your husband to have control over you. Your husband may be under the impression that because he alone has the details of his betrayal, he can exercise full authority over you as you are the one being hurt and feeling distressed.
You should not allow him to have an upper hand over your emotional state. It requires a lot of courage, sometimes a need to resort to falsehood, not to allow your husband to think that your life has been shattered.
To survive an affair, you should try to lead a normal life by eating food properly and sleeping well. In order to keep your mind free from agonizing thoughts, you can do something different on a positive note like walking, reading, contacting friends or developing new hobbies. The idea here is to take up healthy activities to keep yourself busy.
2) Erase the unpleasant images from your mind.
Most wives torment themselves by visualizing pictures of the other woman in their minds. If you don’t know the features of the other woman, her age or complexion and has not even seen her picture, why imagine unnecessarily? Doing so will fill your mind with negative thoughts and as an effect, you will feel angry and bitter.
You should not let your disloyal and lying husband and his amoral partner think that they are always in your mind tormenting you. Do not let them have that sense of satisfaction.
Whenever you see those images in your mind, you should immediately substitute them with something that brings you happiness like tender family memories or anything that you feel happy about.
3) Give your disloyal husband a ‘to-do’ list.
Your husband, perhaps, needs to find a way out to restore the marriage and to redeem himself. He wants to know from you what you expect from him in order to save the marriage.
You should prepare a list of your demand and ask your husband to confirm that he is clear about your needs for pardoning him and effect reconciliation. You should also find out how your husband expects to fulfill the promises made.
4) Give your erring husband an opportunity to rectify his serious mistakes.
While handling a case of infidelity on the part of your husband, you should give him some elbow room to establish that he is remorseful and regret sincerely for whatever has happened.
As your marriage is stake, it is better that you adopt a “forget and forgive” approach, though you may not trust your husband fully.
You can take sufficient time and initiate suitable steps to give your marriage and your heart a chance to heal. This is the only way to restore happiness in your married life. Surviving an affair is hard, but not impossible.
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