Every person in life has to undergo hardship and troubles in life. Many troubles come in the form of needs, temptations and sickness. But the hardest of all is when we break-up a relationship caused by an affair. This type of trouble makes an emotional disaster of a person and makes a woman lose her feet on the ground.
The person feels as if she is living in another planet. The long to get back or away from that person is very huge. Due to this psychological disaster caused by the break up, a person is not able to do her daily chores. This makes life miserable and desperate for help. Learning how to survive an affair can be tough when you are trying to handle everything on your own.
In such cases, we tend to ask for help and like to be cared by someone. To handle a relationship breakup I would like to suggest the following 7 approaches:
1) Past is past.
Try to get away from the past life. If there are things which give you memories, though it is very hard, it is better to get rid of those things. Because, though they have been sweet before, but now, it is hard to digest when our loved ones are not longer with us. If we can get away from the place, items and try to start a new life, it will give a lot of support in our need.
2) There is a reason.
Remember there is a reason for everything that is happening in our life. If we can grasp the essence of our past relationship, we can be better going ahead. For example, if anyone of us gets an electric shock, from the next time onwards, we would be careful not to touch the wires without proper safety.
3) Try to talk a lot with your close friends or relatives.
Try to talk or spend time with friends who make you forget everything in the world and make you laugh and give you support. As the saying goes, a friend in need is a friend in deed.
Try to spend time with the people you feel comfortable with. For example, if you like dogs, try to tame your dog or take your dog out, as recreation makes your mind better.
4) Get involved in things or work.
Instead of sitting ideal, go and do some work which makes your mind busy and keeps you away from thinking about the past. A ideal man’s brain is devil’s workshop. So do not let old thoughts spoil your day. After all, you can never get the present time you have.
5) Be positive.
Try to be positive. If you are God fearing person, try to be more spiritual and be positive. God knows everything in your life. He does the best. There is saying, “When we ask for something, God says “YES” and gives us what we want. He says “NO” and gives something better. But He also says “WAIT” and GIVES US THE BEST.”
Do not think your end of the world is near. But think that you have an opportunity to explore new things in life. A happy heart is a medicine for good health. Learn to be happy in times of pain
Try to talk to yourself that you are able to do all things inspite of your difficulties in relationships. Motivate yourself and self motivation or motivation from others is very important in the present situation. Choose friends who cheer you up and try to lift you up.
7) Get it out.
If you like to cry or to talk with somebody about this issue, do it immediately. As when you cry out loud or talk with someone about the issue, you will feel peace and will feel relaxed. It is one of the best ways to feel comforted and trust me, if you follow all these things, I am sure that whatever the problem might be, you will be able to sustain it.
Getting Professional Help
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