Divorce gets granted by court just for incompatibility of views in majority of states, when marital discord crops among the partners in a family.
The courts take such decision very easily without any further interrogation of the couples. Marriages get solemnized and remain immortal when the couples take differences of opinion as healthy and imbibe its nuances.
The crux of marital relationship is incompatibility in both the partners in terms of views and opinions. To elaborate further, no two persons will have the same view all the time and one need not abide to the other’s opinions.
The difference likings in terms of sex, appearance, etc. are the focal points on which both spouses get dragged down together and these are the challenges which take the pleasure out of a happy marriage.
When husband and wife in a marriage develop differences and decided to get a divorce, they get branded as foes to each other. They are looked upon as rivals and angry enemies.
When differences crops up, husband and wife who thrash out their differences through small fights are deemed as a normal couple compared to couples who go to their rooms and shut their doors and vive in silence. The quarrels have to happen and absence of it may not augur for a lasting relationship.
Therefore, if disagreements were to be swept under the carpet, sooner or later, it’ll become a bulge on the floor which you will trip over and hurt yourself.
If silence is maintained and quarrels are not happening, then something is not right and sustaining the relationship for long term may not be a reality. Husband and wife who rarely quarrel and keep their worries tight in their chest are bound to develop depression symptoms. When it reaches its breaking point, unfortunately, couples tend to exercise the divorce option way too easily.
In order words, couples have to thrash out their differences and accept quarrels as a part of marriage so that parting of relationship does not happen. The act of fighting and then making up, as corny as it sounds, are keys to a healthy relationship.
The basic tool to prevent a marriage to break up is the ability to listen and acknowledges your spouse’s opinion as well as speaking out when you have a different point of view. This habit should be instilled at the beginning of the marriage. Anything less invites small fissures in your relationship which may be the cause of separation of your marriage.
So how do you communicate successfully in a marriage?
Here’s a suggestion, give each other time to voice their differences in views and opinions. Begin by respecting each other during small talks. Be with each other and allot talking time during supper, coffee time or Sunday brunches and all this is to be done frequently.
Should you listen or interrupts when your spouse is voicing his or her views? I think you know the answer to that question. Listen with your heart and never twist their words in order to make it fit into your view.
By all mean, make it an effort to figure out what angers your spouse. Small and silly things done by you may be the source of your spouse’s displeasure. If left unchecked, arguments will crop up for no good reason.
If you think maintaining a happy marriage is easy, then you are living in your own fantasy. It takes effort and hard work. Keeping anger all bottled up inside of you may seem like a good solution at that particular moment. But as pressure builds, sooner or later, you will blow your top and all hell will break lose.
Why not diffuse the pressure by saying how you fill rather than keeping it inside of you. Try it the next time you disagree with your spouse.