When a married woman discovers her husband’s extramarital affair, she feels that her life has been shattered beyond redemption. The pictures of her husband’s disloyalty keep on haunting her and however much she tries she cannot erase from her mind those images and begins to wonder how she could get control over these thoughts.
This situation is fairly common in married couple these days. This factor alone comes in the way of being able to take such upheavals in one’s stride and move on restoring happiness ultimately in her life and being bogged down and continue to suffer terrible pain.
Most of the time the unhappy woman does not want those images of her husband and the other woman to trouble her and however, she does not seem to know how to forget everything and move forward restoring normalcy in her life.
Here are a few tips that may help distraught women to get control over unpleasant thoughts and pictures so that they can erase from their minds permanently.
It’s normal to see these images in your mind.
Any distressed woman under such circumstances should first understand that visualizing these images are perfectly natural, though they are not really accurate.
An affected woman often wonders what exactly is wrong with her, why these thoughts are troubling her again and again and why is she punishing herself because of those images. The answer to these questions is that there is nothing wrong with her and that this sort of feelings is due to an attempt to fill gaps of what she does not know.
Even after the husband confesses about his affair, the wife is not sure whether he is really telling the truth. The wife becomes eager to know why her husband had strayed away from her and developed an affair with someone else. Sometimes she even develops certain doubts in her mind whether her husband really liked her company and the marital life with her.
As a woman affected by her husband’s affair with another woman cannot have answers to all her doubts, she herself begins to form several images in her mind. Most of these pictures are exaggerations and are not likely to be accurate.
A woman may visualize her husband communicating with the other woman in a particular manner, which might not have really occurred. These are the ones which would hurt her most.
Do not let the images to get the better of you.
It, therefore, follows that the anguished woman should not allow those images to overwhelm her. Whether these pictures are accurate or not, they are still painful and unless the affected wife gets control over them they continue to trouble her.
The best way to overcome this ‘devastating cycle’ in which images keep on troubling is to change her response to them. In other words, the wife can correlate those images to something more optimistic.
If this approach is adopted, it is easier to leave all unpleasant images behind and move forward to regain happiness.
Keep yourself busy.
Do something different to drive away those images from the mind. When such unfortunate incidents occur in a woman’s life, it is necessary to break the tormenting cycle and divert her mind on something different.
She should go for a walk, talk to friends or read books or cultivate some other hobby. This way those images would have less impact on her and she will no longer live in constant fear of seeing those images.
She will soon realize that once she gets control over those thoughts of the other woman with whom her husband is found to have an affair she will not experience any more agony and will move forward towards a more enjoyable future.
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