Surviving An Affair By Believing In God’s Grace

If a woman would like to restore her marriage and prevent break up after she discovers that her husband has been unfaithful and indulging in physical or emotional ‘adultery’, it requires some effort on the part of the affected person to find a solution.

To start with, the aggrieved spouse should pardon wholeheartedly the untrustworthy partner and as a next step, the dishonest person should realize why at all he went astray from the marriage relationship. Betrayal is only an indication of more serious problems ahead within the boundaries of marriage.

If one has been disloyal or for some reason distancing away from his spouse, he should ask himself the reasons for doing so and in any case, he should not find fault with his spouse for his weakness. Quite often married couples find fault with each other for the unpleasant situation they are in.

On the other hand, they should find ways and means to restore happiness in their married life, rather than trying to pin each other down in blame game. Those who have been unfaithful to their wives should own responsibility for their lapses and move closer to their spouses rather than surrendering himself physically and mentally to someone who is no way comparable to their spouses.

It requires a lot of earnestness and efforts to look for all that happiness that God wishes for the person and his marriage. It is nothing but God’s desire that one continues to work towards developing a strong bond between the couple built upon faith, mutual respect, promise and admiration. Without these qualities, the person will become time and again weak-minded, causing unhappiness in the marriage.

God will pardon those who are earnest in abandoning weaknesses and sincerely want to do what is proper for the marital relationship to sustain. It is God’s will that people relinquish all wrongdoings, deceit and other immoral acts and surrender before Him and pray so that He can show the way to look for a happy and peaceful living.

The couple should carry on with their marriage on the Divine Truth based upon the recognition that He has pardoned all the sins. The couple should begin rebuilding their marital relationship afresh based on faith and mutual respect with the understanding that it is what God has ordained.

All love and future actions should be based upon the ‘spirit of Jesus Christ’. All interactions between the couple should be focused around God’s command and they should devote sometime to study sacred scriptures. In order to ensure a long lasting marital relationship, it should be centered on the capacity to accept mistakes, forgive and show affection everyday throughout their lives.

One should value the spouse’s sentiments and recognize her status in the marriage. One should very much put an end to investigations, reviews and trying to look for mistakes in his wife’s actions and weakness. With God’s direction, one can be trained to conquer self-importance and selfishness and develop humility.

With God’s grace the affected spouse would look beyond his weakness and pardon him with love and affection, if he repents for his misdeeds. A marriage can be long-lasting only upon strong base and centers on proper communication between couple, mutual admiration, earnestness and openness.

The foundation for our lives is to follow the spirit of Jesus Christ. He is the bolster, which sustains the marriage when under tremendous pressure. As the ancient scriptures emphasize, “For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.”