It is quite natural that after discovering about the infidelity of her partner, it is very difficult to have faith in the spouse again. Even the smallest sign of perfidy is sure to make the affected wife to be extra-cautious.
Even if her spouse smiles casually at a waitress in a restaurant or answers a telephone call from a female friend or a colleague at work place, it is bound to cause suspicion in her mind and she can be seen teething with anger making her blood boil. In other words, she is overcome by powerful emotions causing her further distress.
All these examples clearly indicate that the process of restoring the marital relationship after the betrayal of her spouse is very tough. When the person deceived visualizes the images of immoral behavior of her husband and the other person, the feelings of the affected person are unimaginable.
If the sufferer has these feelings and views with suspicion whatever the spouse does and is extra-cautious indicate that the person has to deal with another powerful emotion, jealously. One should consider the questions whether the jealously is good or bad and what is the negative part of jealousy that may come in the way of surviving the marital relationship after an affair.
Envy is a common emotion in humans. Viewed in a positive light, if a person is jealous, it is indicative of some attachment or soft corner for the spouse and manifests because of the lurking fear that she may lose the spouse forever. One feels envious of the spouse’s movements because they may pose serious threat to the relationship.
This sort of reactions will cause irreparable damage to the relationship with the spouse, if they are not regulated properly and the aggrieved person does not understand the reason why it occurs. Sometimes, being envious is good as it indicates that there is a threat to the relationship so that one can take steps to consider various methods to protect the relationship. In this respect, jealously is a catalyst to help continue the relationship despite the episode of an affair.
The best method to reveal the feeling of jealousy is to plainly talk to the spouse about it in a lighter vein emphasizing that she sincerely loves the spouse and value their relationship. There is another type of jealously, which shows up for no apparent reason.
Such envious feelings will have negative effects on the marital relationships, if they are persisted with. In that situation, the aggrieved wife will not be in a position to think objectively and responses to these feelings will provoke her spouse leading to skirmishes, diminishing any chances of saving the relationship after an affair of her husband’s betrayal.
Frequent quarrels of this nature will deteriorate the relationship further and the distance between the couple will widen further, ultimately leading to breakup of the marriage. Although the wife’s anger and feeling jealous are natural and even justified, such negative reactions will nullify any chances of restoring the marital relationship.
Marriage is a sacred bond between couples. Sometimes this relationship is marred by an indiscreet act of the male partner. He should realize his mistakes and both the couples should sit down, discuss and sort out all issues affecting their marriage. A marriage is built upon mutual trust and love. If it is dented, it is important that both the couples should ensure that their marriage survives even after an affair by one of the couples.